CONCLUSION JUMPING
It's part of our nature to jump to conclusions, assumptions and even unfair judgements. It's something we all do, often without even realizing it. We don't like when people make assumptions about us so it's time to make changes in ourselves to stop jumping to conclusions about others.
A good practice is giving the person the benefit of the doubt. In reality most things are not as they seem. When we jump to conclusions we could sabotaging possible relationships even before they begin.
We may find someone not very friendly and assume they are uppity or a snob when in reality they are just shy. How can we jump to the conclusion someone is drunk because they are stumbling, when we didn’t see the blows he took yesterday? Does it annoy you when the person ahead of you is moving very slowly? We may not realize there's a good reason for it. Perhaps the last time they rushed they fell. Have you ever come to a conclusion about someone walking with a limp - not knowing there's a tack in their shoe? Do you pick up a book and judge its contents by how attractive the cover is? Can we appreciate a painting while the brush is still in the artists hand?
There are ways we can train ourselves to stop jumping to conclusions. The first as I said before, give people the benefit of the doubt. Consider all possibilities or alternative scenarios that could bring us to this conclusion. Use only firsthand information. But the most important tool we have is communication. Rather than jumping to conclusions, approach kindly offering assistance. In my experience most people are happy to share things about themselves.
Your approach is the first indication that you care and they matter.
Unless we follow in each step that’s taken we have no idea what happened yesterday thereby having no right to make conclusions, as we don’t have all the facts. For that matter we are also completely ignorant of tomorrow as well. We can only judge ourselves as that is all we truly know for sure. Much easier said then done I’m afraid. It’s up to each of us to work toward accepting things as they are without judgments.