WHAT'S YOUR BODY SAYING
Do you realize you speak without uttering a single word? It’s true. We all do. Sometimes what our body language is saying is more effective than the spoken word. It’s a well-established fact that only 10% of what we say comes from speaking, 40% comes from the tone and speed of our voice and the remaining 50% comes from our body language.
Your body language can be interpreted in many ways. It depends on each situation you are in what you are unconsciously saying and even who you may be talking to. When talking to a person of authority your body language will greatly differ from when you are in the company of your peers.
Once you recognize what your body is saying you can then start changing your body language to your benefit. If you smile more, you give the impression you are a happy person and will actually begin to feel happier as well. Instead of slouching, try sitting up straight. This will give you a feeling of confidence, a higher energy level and make you feel more in control. Slowing down and will bring a calmness to you. Pay attention to what your body is saying and modify it to reinforce your feelings.
As much as you would like to think that people are watching your every move. They are not. Practice your movements, monitor yourself and soon you will find that you can control what your body is saying effectively finding a balance.
A few simple suggestions are, don’t cross your arms. This gives the impression that you are closed off or guarded. Keep your arms relaxed and at your sides giving you’re a more appealing, openness.
Share your eye contact with those around you. Don’t stare but make eye contact creating a better connection during a conversation. This says – I’m listening or that they are listening to you.
Don’t be afraid to be comfortable and take up some room. Spreading your feet apart a little bit shows self-confidence.
Be quick to smile or laugh if it’s funny and try not to take yourself too seriously but, don’t keep your smile pasted in place or you will look goofy.
When being introduced, relax and smile giving a sincere impression. Do not fidget as that will cause you to look nervous. Instead try using your hands along with your words to get your point across.
Don’t crowd or stand too close. Allow yourself and others their space. Keep a positive attitude. How you feel will come through clearly in your body language.
Making changes in your body language takes time. Many of our movements are habits and need to be broken. It’s best to pinpoint one thing you would like to change and work on that first. Once you feel you have a good handle on that, then move to the next thing and so on. As you make these changes you will become more comfortable and end up feeling much more confident and in control.